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#ffffff;" />As an inspiring individual, Elizabeth Nash was selected
When a child is first diagnosed with a medicalto carry the 2002 OlympicTorch through Union
condition, especially a life-threatening one, the firstSquare in San Francisco. Liz died at nearly 33, well
question many parents understandably ask is,past her “statistical average” at the
“How long does my child have totime but her spirit lives on as her example and
live?” Medical professionals respond by quotingcourage continue to bring hope to many.
the statistics.With many medical conditions, there is a strong
Statistically, all illnesses have a somewhat predictablecorrelation between good self-care and longevity.
course or an “average lifeParents can use statistics to inspire hope and spark
expectancy.” But statistics based on thean “I can beat this” attitude. Parents
group norms may be very misleading and evenwho give off positive, “we can beat
disabling when applied to individual children. It’sthis” vibes generally raise kids with the same
very hard to predict who will be among the manydetermined spirit. We have met many CF parents
who “beat the odds.”and their children who demonstrate this indomitable
Historically, medical professionals have been known toand inspiring attitude.
advise parents of children with cystic fibrosis not toIn summary, wise parents handle statistics and
worry about saving for their children’s collegemedical predictions by:
education. And parents have been known to lower• Emphasizing that significant medical progress
their expectations concerning their children’sis being made in almost all areas, and that health and
performance in school, sports, or other importantlongevity are increasing for almost all illnesses.
matters relating to the future and living a• Realizing that for all individuals, the future is
“normal” life.unknown. Many lives are shortened by unexpected
This lowering of expectations, with its suggestion ofillness and traumatic events.
a “What’s the use?” attitude• Encouraging their children to believe that
does a great disservice to children. It encouragesthey have every chance of being one of those
them to become both entitled and to feel hopelesschildren “who fall on the high side of the bell
within themselves. Achievement and self-image bothcurve because you take such good care of
suffer.yourself.”
The average life expectancy for many diseases is• Understanding that the quality of a life is
increasing at a fairly rapid rate due to medicalmeasured not by its length, but by the amount of
advances. What might be an accurate statistic todaylove, accomplishment, and giving that fills it.
probably won’t be tomorrow. While it is• Understanding that worrying about the
important to understand the statistics, it is not helpfulfuture and chewing on the mistakes of yesterday
to be governed by them. The Nash family knew thisrob both today and tomorrow. The resulting
to be true:hopelessness, negativity, and worry can shorten lives
When Liz was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis in 1973,and certainly diminish the quality of life.
her parents were told not to expect her to graduate• Believing that those who bravely face
from high school. She did much more than that. Lizlife’s obstacles build a character that not only
earned a PhD in molecular genetics, interned at Johnsleads them to be more capable people and leaders,
Hopkins University and went on to become abut sets an example that enhances the lives of all
research scientist in CF. She also volunteered as awith whom they come in contact.
mentor to teens with CF, who struggled withAnswering a child’s questions about the
thoughts about their future and medical compliance.course of his or her illness can be difficult. How can
Liz was optimistic, enthusiastic, and passionate aboutparents answer their child’s questions with
her life’s work and interests. She shunned thehope if they have not come to a good place
limitations imposed by CF. As captain of her collegethemselves? The child will almost always take the
ski team she refused to give up the sport whenparent’s cues. So don’t let scary
oxygen became necessary. She simply skied with astatistics rob your hope and joy!
backpack filled with portable oxygen tanks.